My Partner and I have been having tough time with her 6 year old son. He has suffered a lot of trauma in his short 6 years and I completely understand why he is so angry and challenging. I do not have any kids of my own so this is all new to me.
This morning as well as most mornings he woke up cranky and fought getting up. It took a while to get him up, then it took a while to get him to put clothes on, then it took him a while to get him out the door. Reflecting now it might be better if we start a little earlier with the whole process. All that is happening really isn't about him because he is a reflection of me. so I need to do some looking inside to see where the problem lays.
He is at he point when we try to give him consequences he says I don't care. So taking any thing away does not phase him. This morning he went to school with out eating or a snack because he would not take what he had just previously asked for. I made him the sand which he wanted then he said he wasn't eating it! Oh he is such a joy and I know he is teaching me so much I just want to learn it so we can move on!
So not knowing what else to do I used what I already know about. I pulled out my color cards and asked for guidance, "What do I need to know to help my partner's son". I used the Mini color cards and they have a reverse side also. I drew a strength in Blue and a strength in Black. Both of these cards remind me of the qualities I bring into the relationship between my partner's son and I. Blue being the color of the throat energy center (Chakra) has to do with expression and more importantly expression from our inner knowing. This reminds me to stay true to my truth no matter what he is feeling or how he is acting. If I respond out of love my actions will always be centered and even if he is still upset I will be in a state of mind where I am able to handle him.
The second card I drew is a strength in black! Black reminds us of the many possibilities because black is the combination of all the colors anything is possible. Black shows us that we are always changing and growing and that the best is yet to come. Going deeper I consulted the Color card book to get a better understanding of what I could do for my partner's son. Black tells me that I myself am also learning and that being willing is a key component.
Kids are our greatest teachers! I am so blessed to have these wonderful children and my amazing partner in my life to act as Mirrors for me and help me evolve my consciousness!
This is good.
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